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Leah Gervais: Hey visionaries. Welcome back to the Your Biggest Vision Show. I’m your host Leah and I’m very excited to have Sofie Von Marricks with us today. She is the founder of Love Your Life Bitch and she is a friend of mine. Hi Sofie. 

Sofie Von Marricks: Hi Leah. So excited to be here. 

Leah Gervais: Thank you so much for being here and when this air’s it’s going to be you and another one right on their way. So, congratulations on your motherhood to be. 

Sofie Von Marricks:Thank you. I’m really excited to be quote on quote Mom *could not transcribe*, so I’m really looking forward to reinventing myself into that role. 

Leah Gervais: For those listening, Sophie and I have been part of a few entrepreneurship programs together. That’s kind of how we know each other and how we’ve become so close. And I have been viciously taking notes on how Sophie is running her business while pregnant. I appreciate you being the Guinea pig for me. 

Sofie Von Marricks:Oh Gosh. Well I’ll let you know when I figure it out. I’m not sure we’ll see how it goes, but I do feel confident. I will figure it out and it’ll roll out in the way that it’s meant to. But I have also been voraciously taking notes on many moms over the years. There’s, that’s the cool thing about our industry. I feel like there are so many amazing moms who are redefining what it means to be a working mother. And I love seeing the different ways that everyone does it. 

Leah Gervais: Yeah, yeah. I totally agree, and I think it’s so great that it’s an option. I remember when I was quitting my job and I was kind of telling my fiancé that, you know, that this way, if I can work from home, if we have kids I can like be with them and he’s like, Leah, a baby’s not a dog that will just sit in a corner. Like just because you’re home doesn’t mean you don’t need to take care of it. I have someone help us. And I’m like, okay,

Sofie Von Marricks:That’s such a good point. It’s such a good point. But you know what? Even when, you know, I didn’t have kids on the horizon for a while when I wanted to become an entrepreneur, but even being able to be a better dog, mom was a really big motivation for me. And I’m so thankful that I was able to spend more time with my last dog than like the last years of her life. It just, I don’t know. It just like, that’s what, that’s a gift. That’s a gift of entrepreneurship, being able to be at home with your pets.

Leah Gervais: To be with your family. No, I love it. Well, let’s, let’s talk a little bit about your journey. So, um, we, the show is all about your vision and I know you, Sophie, you’re such a visionary and I’m so excited for you to share some of the things you do to keep your vision alive with us in a bit. But I want to go back a little bit and hear about what you, what did you think you’d be when you grew up? 

Sofie Von Marricks:thinking way back, you know, uh, when I was growing up, both of my parents were artists. Like, my dad’s a DJ, my mom’s a photographer. She was also, she worked for herself. She was a homeopath. She was a Doula. Like she, my mom has reinvented herself in so many different ways. It’s actually kind of amazing. But growing up I really, you know what, I wanted to rebel against my parents’ way of living. So, I thought I would climb the corporate ladder or go to university. And that was my way of rebelling. They thought I should, you know, leave school and travel the world and find myself. And in all honesty, I probably should have. But yeah, that I thought that I would, you know, get some amazing degree. I thought I would, you know, start the start climbing the corporate ladder, slay. I thought I’d be like a CEO with a corner office and just like make tons of money. And I really felt growing up that like money would solve all of my problems. So, I just kind of thought that’s what I would head towards was becoming this really Uber successful, powerful woman, even though my actions didn’t always match up with that. I think that’s the vision that I had in my head when I was younger. That, or to be honest, I think I was also affected by like the Disney princess mentality. I kind of dreamt of just getting married and have someone take care of it for me. So, there’s two totally polar opposite situations. But yeah, I kind of had a mix of both of those things when I was growing up. 

Leah Gervais: You know? I love that you share that though because I can relate to that and I think a lot of other women actually can too, that you get a lot like this huge career and then also at the same time to like never work and stay home and have children. 

Sofie Von Marricks:Yeah. 

Leah Gervais: I think it’s good to talk about because I think some of the time in, you know, I live in New York and um, women are so independent here and their jobs and our careers are so serious, which is admirable. But I think that it can sometimes overshadow the family part too. So I love that you share that. Can you want to vote? And you can have both. 

Sofie Von Marricks:You can have fun. I’m having both right now guys. Literally right now. Yeah. 

Leah Gervais:

Okay, great. So, uh, you are now an entrepreneurial, so you obviously didn’t end up at the corporate ladder, but did you go that route for quite a while? 

Sofie Von Marricks:Yeah, I mean, I guess in my short life at the time it seemed like ages, but it was really only about four and a half years that I did the corporate ladder. So I did, I went to university, I got a business degree, um, and then I moved cities and yeah, began climbing the corporate ladder and it didn’t necessarily feel as fantastic as I thought it would feel and I just realize that some things were not matching up with the way that I thought they would work out. And I think this is kind of a thing growing up like, yeah, it’s not as easy as maybe you think it will be. But even compared to a lot of my peers, like I just felt I just wasn’t happy at all. I wasn’t accepting of how out of place I felt. 

Just something felt so off, but I still, it fell off right from the start, but I still just was like, okay, maybe it’ll get better with time or I’m just, I’m just finding my way and just figuring myself out. But through my four and a half years at my corporate job, there was nothing wrong with the job. The company and the job is probably actually really great and really cool and they’re doing cool things. But I just saw a decline that spread to my entire life. Like emotionally, physically, like I gained a lot of weight. I felt really bad about myself. I was very unhealthy. I was really unhappy, and it was not just affecting like the 40 plus hours a week that I was working. It was affecting my relationships the way I was showing up with my family, with my partner, with friends. 

I just was becoming truly miserable and I had already gone through one kind of reinvention in my earlier adult years where I kind of pulled myself out of a Rut and got myself onto a really great path and really got into personal development. But I really found like the further I went down into this, you know, quote on quote “path I should be on” in order to be successful, I just became less and less successful and more and more unhappy. And it was just affecting my life in a way that wasn’t just contained to my nine to five job, if that makes sense. So, I just knew something had to give at a certain point. I wasn’t willing to live that way my entire life and it was, most of all, it was really affecting my self-confidence and self worth like, and to the point where I almost had none. So yeah, something, something had to give that wasn’t the kind of life that I was after. 

Leah Gervais: So a few weeks ago, uh, I interviewed my podcast producer slash cause listener. She, she does all my podcasts and she was sort of summarizing the patterns that she has seen in all the entrepreneurs that I’ve interviewed. So, it was really insightful. And one of the things her and I talked about is how when we ask people or when I ask people, you know, how did you know this wasn’t for you? Or how did you decide to make a big change or leap? And for the most part it is leaving, you know, a nine to five job or starting a company sometime in that, in that time zone. What we’ve, what I found is that there isn’t usually one big Ah-ha and I think that people sometimes want that big Ah-ha or something that people are waiting for a big Aha, but instead it’s usually just like a bunch of little things over time that I like eat, literally start eating you alive. So, I think that that’s kind of what you’re alluding to here is that you were realizing that it was such a trickle effect throughout your whole life. That, you know, all these little things were, excuse me, being affected your, your happiness, your health, your family, um, you know, far more than just your, your career. Whatwere the kind of final signs for you and you just said, I’m going to, I’m going to do something different now I, this is actually going to hurt me if I keep doing it. Did you have a big Aha or were you just finally like, enough is enough? 

Sofie Von Marricks:You know what? No, I did have a big Ah-ha, so I like, I guess the main, one of the main reasons is that I didn’t, I didn’t do anything about it for so long because I felt confused. I felt I didn’t know what I wanted to do. However, I did, I was getting inklings of the type of woman or the type of life that I wanted to live. I did start kind of discovering that that world of online entrepreneurs and just getting a glimpse of what was possible. However, I still didn’t necessarily feel that it was possible for me. I just felt like there was something I was still lacking. I wasn’t there yet, but I did like following, you know, all these different women and men, their different adventures online and seeing how they were creating their own careers online. But every time I’ve had, yeah, like that Ah-ha moment. It’s calm from a shift in perspective. For me, that shifted perspective came. I just kind of set the goal that I would leave, and I thought maybe I’d leave in a year or two. Like I gave myself a bit of time, but the shift in perspective happened for me when I, I just feel like when we’re ready we kind of get the lessons or the messages that we need. And I happened to get the message that there was someone in my company who was younger than me, was less educated than me, had been in the workforce, less time had been at the company the last time, but she had the same position as me and I happened to get the knowledge that she was being paid significantly more.

Leah Gervais: Wow. So you were like, I am out of here.

Sofie Von Marricks: Yeah. And I actually was able to speak with her, her about it. And that shift in perspective. I discovered the reason that she was paid more is because she asked and I just suddenly, like everything crumbled around me. And I just realized how low my self-esteem had become that I never felt I could ask for anything like that. Right. And I was always putting everything else and everyone else ahead of myself in that sense. And I just, you know, that struck a chain of events that caused me to leave because I realized at that moment, I realized even if I was being paid more, I didn’t want to stay. I mean, so that, that was, I this whole time I thought, oh Mara money would solve my problems. But it really, in that moment realizing I went through a whole thing of, you know, creating like this report and presentation on why I should get a raise. Being rejected for that raise, deciding that I was like, this was the, like that was the trigger point.

I wanted to work somewhere or be working in some capacity that made me feel valued. That made me feel like I was using my gifts and talents. That made me feel like I was powerful and respected and like a valuable part of the team. And I think before I thought I was a valuable part of the team, but when you start seeing the different dollar signs on the company, you kind of realize, oh, I’m not necessarily a valued part of this team and it, and it wasn’t, I don’t hold that against the company or anything, but it was that shift in perspective that really moved me quickly. And I think any time you see someone who’s maybe got quote on quote less than you on paper, but they’re doing more, that’s a really powerful shift in perspective to get. And it gives you a confidence boost to go after what you really want. And that’s what it did for me. So that, that was my chain of events. So, I went from thinking I would leave my job in two years when I’ve got it all figured out to leaving it in two months. So, things change pretty quickly. 

Leah Gervais:Wow. So I love that you are able, I don’t know maybe how long you take [inaudible] had been instantaneous for me, but I love that you weren’t able to, you know, pull out that the lesson is that since she had apps, you know, that is such a, an indication of where your competence was in comparison to hers, which is low. And I feel like sometimes when you have a lot of low self-confidence or you really suffering with your own confidence, you don’t even have the self-awareness to see that this is a lesson for you. Like you could have easily just thought, they don’t like me, I’m, you know, not as good, blah, blah, blah. But instead you can really see, you could really see that this was assigning, that you are not in a mentally healthy place. So that’s amazing. And I love that you shared that lesson. Thank you. Um, what was your life like when you quit? Like how old were you? Were you living by yourself for you? And I know you live in Vancouver now, which is not a cheap city. So, what was it like to do this? 

Sofie Von Marricks:Yeah, no, absolutely. So, I really quit without much of a plan. Like I really did make that leap. And that’s not necessarily, I guess that it’s not like, it’s not something I do on the regular, but it is something that I’ve done throughout my life is like I make these big leaps when I’m pushed to the edge. Yeah, I mean it was pretty, it was interesting. I basically just hit the ground running. I was a 25 at the time and oh, no. Yeah, I was 26 at the time. Sorry. So, I was 26. I was with my boyfriend at the time, who’s now my husband. He was supportive, but I was very scared. I still had some debt I needed to clear up in order to like, and I felt quite insecure about leaving. Bt I really just jumped in to, not necessarily this career that I’m doing right now, but I just, I was, I knew I wanted to start this business. 

I want to start this business. Love Your Life, Bitch. Since I was 18, I didn’t know if it would be a business. I didn’t quite know what it would be, but it was so to my heart that I still didn’t quite… like, I was still pretty, I knew still needed to work on my confidence a little bit at that point. I wasn’t totally confident to put this idea so close to my heart out there quite yet. So, I kind of hit the ground running with working for myself and just using whatever tools I knew that I had, which I know how to design, I know how to like help people with project management or yeah, like designing flyers or designing a website for them or anything like that. So, I just kind of hit the ground running with that. Um, I just happened to have people who kind of reached out to me every once in a while, to do design work. 

I applied for jobs and offered to do marketing work for their companies and or their like I did like I worked with a clothing reseller, like a luxury clothing reseller and did their social media and marketing for a bit. I mean, I really just kind of took whatever I could take on. However, I did find that it still wasn’t satisfying. I was actually working more hours and feeling really isolated and it was summer when I quit, and it was hot out and I was just like at my computer all the time. And I realized again, like okay you’ve got to make, you’ve got to turn, Love Your Life Bitch into something like that is what you really want. Why are you, why are you kind of just replacing your nine to five job with something that is again, unsatisfying. Like you quit your job, you may as well do what you love. 

So I ended up totally just like finishing off the work for all those clients, leaving them. And then I decided to get to mindless jobs, that would not take much time, but would pay for my essential bills. Like just like nothing extra, I didn’t have like extra spending money for anything. But it would just take care of the bills that I had, you know, anything I have to pay for, for the house and groceries and all that stuff. I worked as a fit model and, uh, for a clothing company, which I’m not, like my body is not an ideal thing for a fit model. So, I kind of weaseled my way in, but it didn’t really work out. And then I also worked at a luxury linen store and if you want to talk about mind numbing, that was mind numbing, but I made it so that I didn’t have to, I didn’t have to spend any extra hours doing anything. 

I got to use my brain power while I was at those jobs. I would just dream up and think about, what I was going to do for love your life bitch. And then I would go home and start building the business. So that’s what I did. So yeah, it wasn’t necessarily easy and it’s very humbling to go from, Oh, I have like this big, you know, I have this business degree and I’m a manager at a tech company. And then I’m working at the luxury linen store. So, it was just like, it’s humbling, but I was happy. I felt free. I felt like I was on a mission and I felt like I felt like it was going to turn into something. So, there were ups and downs. But yeah, that’s how it worked. 

Leah Gervais:So, what advice do you give to people? I think I’m going to pull out of here something I think that is so, so important, which is I think a lot of times people hide behind different, and I’ve done this to be clear, hide behind different excuses of why they’re not trying something. When in reality it’s because whatever that they want to try is so closely tied to them that whether they’re consciously realizing it or not, it doesn’t work. They feel like it’s not a rejection of an idea, but a rejection of themselves. And that if for any reason people have judgments about it or it’s a failure than they think they’re a failure. I think that’s common actually very common amongst entrepreneurs because we do love our, you know, work so much and it is so close to us. So what advice you have to give to people about separating their worth from their business worth or whatever project they’re trying or transformation they’re trying. 

Yeah. And you know what, this is a lot of the, what the work is that I do now, and this is the whole thing behind Love Your Life Bitch. It’s really just building a life that you feel so confident in and really knowing and loving and understanding yourself at such a deep level that, yeah your identity isn’t tied to a job or a position or whatever. So, I always tell people to like, you know, really look at that and itself like where are you getting your confidence from? Really just like shifting your perspective on who you are. You are not your job. Like look at this thing in front of you as just a project. Like love your Life Bitch was so close to my heart and I was rapping at the time. I was really wrapping up my identity in my job and I think that’s why my job was so unsatisfying. So I had such a low self-esteem and myself.

Today, yeah, love your life, which is a huge part of me and I think a lot of people might like that might be my identity online, but my identity and my confidence comes from so many other places and I see confidence coming from like three different levels. We’ve got like your lifestyle, you’ve got your outer confidence, like the image that you project to the world, which is the easiest place to fake confidence, I guess. And then you know, I feel really solid and confident in myself. Like I make it so that the job or the idea isn’t like everything. You kind of have to find ways to be happy and satisfied with your life outside of that stuff. And then get comfortable with failure. I feel like just see it as a project and put it out into the world and then, you know, get feedback from it. 

If it fails, there’s no such thing as a real failure. You just get feedback. You’re like, okay, that part of that worked or I need to tweak that, or I need to bring this to a different audience. Like I tried to just get people to detach their identity from it and find your identity other places. And that’s what really love your life, bitch is all about like really making it so that you’re confident at every level so that you feel confident and comfortable and deserving of trying all these different dreams on that you have. Seeing what works and crossing things off the list and moving on. Like I feel like our lives and careers are always going to evolve. Even if you feel like you’re on a purpose fulfilled mission right now, it evolves and that’s, that’s what life really is. 

We’re not here to like define ourselves and put ourselves on a piece of paper and you know, make it fit a perfect puzzle. We’re here to grow and change and learn and evolve. And I feel like my company and myself, we’re always going to be evolving and there we’re going to try things and things aren’t going to work out and things will work out. And then, but that doesn’t mean when they work out, I double down on that. And that’s the thing that I derive all of my confidence and value from. It’s just like that’s what worked out for now and I’ll try something new later. So yeah, I just try to get people to, it’s not about defining yourself, it’s about throwing things at life and seeing what sticks and having fun with it and having fun with the adventure and being open to getting feedback from putting yourself out there. 

Leah Gervais: Yeah. Oh, that is all such good advice. And what, so it’s so inspiring to hear you speak about this now. When you were, when you did finally start Love Your Life Bitch, and you know, you were starting to create the platforms for it and everything, what, what was it like? Was it as scary as you thought it was going to be or was it pleasantly easy walk us through like that messy beginning. 

Sofie Von Marricks:It was messy. 

Leah Gervais: I guess what I’d more love to hear about or what I’d most love to hear about is just what it actually, what it felt like versus what your anticipation thought it was going to feel like. 

Sofie Von Marricks:Um, I think it felt, it felt really scary, but it’s because I made it that way too. You know what I mean? I did feel like at the start it felt like a total roller coaster. Like there would be super high highs and super low lows. I would be questioning myself. I would be afraid to put myself out there. Then I would do it anyways and then I would feel exhilarated. And then you crash after, I mean, it was a little wild at the start. I kind of feel like maybe kind of how a baby feels when they come into the room. I’ve got babies on the brain, but like, you know, everything’s kind of dire. Like one minute you’re cooing and cawing and oohing and ahhing, and then you’re screaming bloody murder. But it was really, it was really crazy, but I wouldn’t change it. And I’m so grateful for it. And it was, there were a lot of ups and downs like I was, there were things that were easier than expected, um, like it was, you know, it was easier… like I made up a lot of stories in my head around like being or people liking it or whatever, but then you get to a point where you just like, I need to put this out there and do it anyways. And I think I felt maybe I would be judged by people that instead became my biggest supporters. Um, it was surprisingly easy even though I wasn’t feeling totally confident, it was easier to get clients then I thought when I just took the action that I was so afraid to do, it was, there were really beautiful moments where, and I think I went into a lot of things really naively. 

I didn’t really know what I didn’t know. I didn’t have a lot of stories about what it would necessarily take, but I did have stories about like, you know, I would have to work really hard in order to get this business off the ground. So that was true for me. I had to work really hard in order to get the business off the ground. And it was like any story I told myself usually came true. However, it was, I think I was pleasantly surprised when you actually follow through on the actions that scare you the most. Like, you know, putting, you know, announcing your business to your peers and stuff like that. I was really surprised by how supportive and, and inspired other people were and people who I thought maybe would judge me or I was scared to be judged by, I ended up being like really amazing advocates for my business. 

So, I think that’s been probably the coolest thing at the start of the business. And I think, I thought maybe I would have this like rampant success story, you know, you hear of so many entrepreneurs I think were drawn in by I got to six figures in six months or you know, whatever, whatever sexy little tagline it is. And you don’t know how much work went into that. But I think there were like maybe humbling moments where I thought things would be take-off quicker than they did. However, they did take off quickly in their own way. And the me from five years ago who was in her corporate job who was so unsatisfied would have been so happy with the wind that I had, and I was really happy with the wind. So maybe I didn’t have like this out the ballpark success that some people like are able to say they had, but I’m a wouldn’t change it for any other way. I’m really happy the way that that things have turned out. 

Leah Gervais: Yeah. And I personally, nowadays, I think in the early days, you, you are really seduced by the, the taglines and everything. But I think nowadays you’re, you know, a bit drawn more to the stories that… what’s important is if people can actually relate to you and if they actually think what you’ve done is realistic for them to, and so you, you know, sharing that. Yeah. It was hard. It was a roller coaster. There were things that were amazing, and there were things that were really difficult. I think that that’s in a way more aspirational because someone can actually take action from that point because they believe that that’s probably how it would be for them too. But if someone hears something that just seems so unattainable, no matter dreamy, it makes sound, the likelihood of it actually igniting them into action is probably a big picture lower because it feels too unrealistic. 

So, you know, you’re not going to take action for something you don’t think is even going to happen. So, I love that you share, you know, the realness of it. And I hate, that’s like what my whole show is about. We talk about the realness because it’s, um, it’s not easy, but it’s not anything I would ever trade either. So, I totally agree with that. It’s not something that should be thought of as a bad thing. And I think the whole reason I wanted to start this show, and I guess Kind of my next question for you is, when it comes to your goals or dreams or the life that you’re working toward? At the end of the day, no one else is going to work toward it for you at all. Not you’re not our husbands, not our parents. No one. 

And that’s okay. That’s, you know, not a bad thing. It’s just how it is. And so, what can we do when things feel like they’re like pushing against the pursuit of that and sometimes it can feel like it’s pushing really hard when everything goes wrong all at once. And so, what did you do in the beginning to pick yourself back up and what do you do more now? And even if you just want to use that as an example, like if you just have a really bad day where sort of things don’t go right, you don’t make the sales you thought you were going to, you know, an email goes out with typos, it was like whatever the case may be, how do you get through that day?

Sofie Von Marricks:Yeah, when there are bad times and I think those bad times, those bad times at the start felt so much worse than they do now. Like I feel like I’d get over things pretty quickly now, but I think it’s like it is getting back to your vision. Do you know what I mean? It’s like, I think sometimes we forget what we got into this for. And you, yeah, you can kind of get wrapped up in reaching the goal or like hitting the income goal or doing x, Y, z. But what it has always helped me is to remember why I got into this. At the end of the day, I’m just a girl who wants a nice peaceful life where I get to be creative where I get to work for myself, stay at home with my dog. And I guess now my daughter, her too. You know, like I, at the end of the day, what makes me happy is really simple. 

I like going for a bike ride in the afternoon. I like having picnics outside like it’s nothing crazy. Do you know what I mean? Right. When we get like too wrapped up in all the achievements. Like I just remember why I’m really here and what makes me happy. And then I go back to the vision of like what I, the reason I started my con, like the real reason I started this company and why I was so inspired is because like, and we haven’t even really talked about it much, but it’s like there’s nothing more that I love than a woman falling in love with herself. And that’s what I really mean by like, just love your life, bitch. You have everything in right now, right now to love your life. And again, it just goes back to that shift in perspective. Like when things go bad, when things go bad now yeah, I send the email out or I get like a hate comment or you know or I have an a month where I didn’t make as much money as I wanted or I launched a program that you know didn’t take off or didn’t do as well. It’s like I’m so grateful that I have these problems now. Like these problems are problems I would have loved to have in my corporate job.

At the end of the day when you strip it all back, I love my life like I have, I love my life bitch like and I think that’s what I have to remember. Like when whenever you get into being grateful again and putting things in perspective, like it all just kind of melts away and then I really get back to my purpose, like refocusing on my purpose. Like my purpose is to help women fall in love with themselves more. Exactly as they are. They’re imperfect. They’re perfectly imperfect self, like releasing that guilt and shame and going after their dreams and doing the things that they love to do and like that’s really what it’s all about and creating a well-rounded life. And that’s the thing. If you have a well-rounded life that you get confidence from at every level, then an email going out with typos, which by the way, I do all the time. That’s a regular day, you know? Yeah. That’s a regular day. It’s no big deal and it’s no big deal in the grand scheme of things. Like we’re here for such a short time. Like I just want to do the things that make me happy and I just try to remember that. I just go back to that every time. 

Leah Gervais: I love the work you do so funny because I think it is the base of everything. You know, it’s really hard to do any big transformation if you don’t have that confidence and that senator madness with yourself, whether that is entrepreneurship or whether that’s um, you know, I’ve had people on my shot, I’ve had different kinds of transformations. I mostly do entrepreneurship, but I have someone on here who came and talked about how he was really overweight, and, in a year, he lost over a hundred pounds and it’s amazing. Another woman, Jamila who, her and her husband, I think when they had relatively young kids decided they were going to save $85,000 in a year, which for them, you know, that I think it was like they ended up living on one of their income. The point here is that you’re trying to go through any transformation or you have any big goal than the work you’re doing with women. So, if use kind of the baseline, it’s really hard to keep going through a big reach if you don’t have this strong foundation to begin with. You know, that’s how things collapse. 

Sofie Von Marricks:Well, totally. I see time and time again, like women have these amazing dreams or they have an idea, but when you don’t have confidence in yourself and you don’t love yourself, like that’s when you put up with just staying in a job that you hate, or you wait years and years to start your idea. Or You, you know, you don’t charge your worth or you don’t ask for the raise or you just surround yourself with people who aren’t inspiring and motivating and you just don’t even see another option for yourself. I think a lot of people think that confidence is something that you’re either born with or not. And I’m here to tell you like, I was not born confident. So, the confidence is something you cultivate. It’s something you learn. Some of us are lucky enough to have that cultivated early on in our childhoods, but it is something that is learned and when you are confident, when you like yourself and love yourself and believe in yourself, like you feel okay to try things and fail and see what happens. And like, the only way we’re ever going to grow is by taking risks. So, I just want people to feel though they are deserving enough for their desires and that it’s okay to take risks and feel supported and confident in doing that and pushing the boundaries of your life so that you can love your life Bitch. 

Leah Gervais: I feel like I could do pretty much anything right now Sofie. 

Sofie Von Marricks:Good. I love it. 

Leah Gervais:Well, thank you so much for sharing your story with us and thank you for really shine from the heart. I really feel like you opened up about the work that you do and why you do it. And um, you know, that’s what I could think is why you do such an amazing job at it. It’s obviously important to you both in terms of seeing your clients, you know, lives change because of it. And because you, you do remember what it was like to, you know, to hear someone else was getting paid more than you because you didn’t have the confidence to ask and you know, what it was like to, to be in that place. So, it’s just amazing and I am always in awe of the brand that you’ve built. I have a couple of your biggest vision questions for you. Are you ready? Cool. I’m ready. Okay. Well I already asked you once we’re going to skip that one. It was how do you fight for your vision when things fight against it? But he did a great job with that. What would you say you’re most proud of so far? 

Sofie Von Marricks:I would say something that comes to mind is like whenever I’ve done live client events, like I hosted a retreat in Bali and did an amazing event at the Beverly Hills Hotel with some of my top clients last year. I really would love to do more live events, but there’s something just so magical and exhilarating about doing live events. And I just love connecting with people in person. So those have been to my most like my most proud of moments. But again, I’m just really proud of the life that I’ve created because I can’t tell you how different I was in my life was before I set out to create this business. Like I am a different person and my life is completely different and it’s like, it’s a simple, fabulous life and I’m really proud of the people I’ve attracted and the career I’ve created and just everything as a whole. I’m super proud of it. 

Leah Gervais:I love that answer. And you’re going to have a baby soon.

Sofie Von Marricks:I know, I’m proud of my baby already.

Leah Gervais: Oh, I’m sure you should be proud, you’ve gone through all these months of pregnancy.

Sofie Von Marricks:Yeah, I really excited. Go ahead.

Leah Gervais: Do you have a go to book or podcast that you recommend?

Sofie Von Marricks:You know what a podcast that I never miss an episode of is James Wedmore’s mind your business podcast? I just, I love, I love the mindset behind business, so I love that. And I, Gosh, there’s so many books, but I won’t even go there. But yeah, that’s my podcast that I always listened to.

Leah Gervais: You love it. I love that one too. He’s amazing. Yeah, he’s great. How can people find out more about you and how can people work with you? Yes. So you can find out more about me at justloveyourlifebitch.com or you can find me on Instagram @loveurlifebitch. And um, people can work with me in a multitude of ways. But the way that I am most passionate about is my monthly membership club. It’s called the hot rich reinvention club. And it’s really about, it’s for entrepreneurs, it’s for just, you know, anyone. And it’s really for any woman who wants to get from where she is to where she wants to be. We cover a ton of topics, but it’s really all about just what I was talking about, like creating a diverse well-rounded life that you are truly confident and that where you feel hot, rich and amazing and unapologetic about living an incredible life that you love. So, we tackle it from all sorts of angles and it’s really fun and I just loved that so much. So, check it out on my website. Amazing. 

Leah Gervais: And all of those will be linked on this page as well. Sophie, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. Thank you so much for being such an inspiration and congratulations on your baby.

Sofie Von Marricks:Thank you so much, Leah. It was so fun to be here.

Leah Gervais: Great. All right, visionaries, we will see you soon. I hope that you take all this inspiration from Sophie. Go believe in yourself. Know that you’ve got this. Totally believe her when she says that it’s all within you now because it is. You are closer than you think. We will talk to you soon.

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